Have you ever felt like quitting something? Giving up on a child, job, assignment, marriage, or even a relationship? If you haven’t, then please call me. You could write a book and become a millionaire. For the rest of us, when circumstances aren’t seemingly going our way, our natural tendency is to give up and give something else a try.
Now, there are times when quitting something is completely necessary. If you’re quitting drugs – that’s a great thing! If you’re quitting lust, porn or sex with someone who isn’t your spouse – that’s an amazing feat. If you’re quitting a job where the leadership is extremely unhealthy and is taking advantage of you – please quit! (My wife and I have been there.) Even if you’re quitting a job to take a promotion somewhere – praise God! Quitting an abusive relationship – more power to you. Please leave that low life sucker. You can’t save him/her, only God can.
But I’m talking about when we fall into hard times. I’m talking about when our dreams seem dead or when that person we love will never seem to get his/her act together. I’m talking about when the pressure of life seems so overbearing that you simply want to quit. It’s in these moments that we want to give up. BUT – I believe that the hard times of life could very well guide us to the greatest moments in our life.
I’ve had many of those dream crushing moments in my life where I wanted to quit. One of which was when our church was having a hard time finding a new location a few years ago. Man did I want to quit. But if I quit, I would have quit too soon – because I would have missed a huge blessing God had in store for us. On the other hand, I’ve wanted to quit when my plans weren’t going the way I wanted them to go. So, let me give you 1 simple reason why we quit too soon:
- We often think the grass is greener on the other side
When those plans are going “my way” or when I am in those moments of wanting to quit I always find myself fantasizing of a life that I “should” be living. (As if God owes me!) As a pastor I look at other “successful” pastors (whatever that means) and think to myself – “their grass is so much greener than mine.” Perhaps their grass is greener for 3 reasons: 1) They’ve spent heavy work laboring and fertilizing the grass. 2) The grass is green because you aren’t stomping, digging, and/or craping on it. Or 3) It’s turf. So it’s not even real grass. They live a fake life.
The great news is that the grass maybe greener on the other side, but your grass can be just as green if you would spend more time cultivating and fertilizing it instead of fantasizing about someone else’s green grass. YOU DON’T HAVE TO QUIT AFTER ALL! Don’t quit simply because you think life can be better if you are in a different situation. It’s my firm belief that God has placed you right where you are for a reason. Perhaps that reason is to fertilize your own grass, no matter how difficult it is. Trust me, I know how hard it is! So, if you’re in a hard place, quitting may not be the best option, because that hard place could very well guide you to one of the greatest moments in your life.