Ecclesiastes 9:9 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.
Most people believe that Solomon wrote Ecclesiastes later in his life and if this is true, then this verse reveals that Solomon understands that marrying 700 wives was not a good idea. So, how can we enjoy our spouse if we aren’t mentally connected to him or her? In order for us to enjoy our spouse we have to be with them – not just physically, but mentally and spiritually. This is one of the most common reasons why marriages end up in trauma.
One of the reasons we can’t enjoy our spouse is because our minds are constantly on something or someone else. Whether it be on someone else or pornography, there are millions of distractions that are vying for our attention. What would your marriage look like if you stopped fantasizing about someone else or stopped watching porn and spent all of your time cultivating your relationship with your spouse?
I’m sure some of you are thinking, “You don’t know my spouse!” Well, actually you don’t know your own self. Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful beyond all things who can understand it.” And contrary to what you have bought in to, the grass isn’t greener on the other side. Actually, the grass is greener; you just haven’t been there yet to poop on it. Maybe you ought to devote your time in cultivating your own grass instead of fantasizing about someone else’s. (Hopefully my grass and poop metaphor didn’t lose you.)
How can you enjoy your spouse? Be with your spouse mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Another way you can enjoy your spouse is by taking them on dates. (If you don’t know how to date, Google it.)
“When husband’s and wives are well yoked, how light their load becomes!” – Charles H. Spurgeon