Unless you’ve been living under a rock, then you have most likely heard the craziest song ever, “What Does the Fox Say?” Me and my kids get a good kick out of it. In actuality, it made me think, wait…I’ve really never heard a fox…so what does it say? I’ve heard a dog…I’ve heard coyotes…but I’ve never heard a stupid fox. What does the fox say?
A couple of months ago I was reading through the Song of Solomon and found this verse, “Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that spoil the vineyards, for our vineyards are in blossom.” Let me put this in context for you. This guy and gal are in the courting phase of their relationship and she is basically asking him, “will you fight for our relationship when things get really bad?” Because the reality is that you and I have issues. Some are the size of Alaska…and others are the size of West Point Georgia. Regardless…you and I are going to have issues throughout our relationships and we must be able to identify and kill the foxes (issues) that are bent towards destroying our marriages and relationships. So, the fox says it wants your marriage to die…but God says, you made a covenant with that man or woman. And God wants to destroy the foxes and see your marriage thrive.
Here are a few foxes that are common in our relationships:
Jesus>Marriage>Kids. It’s not the other way around. What happens when your kids leave the home and you’ve placed all your vitality on them? You’re left with some woman or man you don’t even know. This also applies to you parents who place so much priority on activities that keep you and your child away from Church.
2) Secret Sin
The sin you continue to fail at confronting…will be the sin that destroys you. And if you’re in the courting phase…you need to come clean on a lot of things. It will eat at your soul if you don’t and you will bring in so much baggage to your marriage if you don’t. If you’re married, you need to use extreme wisdom and counsel if there are dark secret sins you are clinging to. Confess to God for forgiveness and confess to others for healing.
3) Attitude (Criticism, Nagging, Bickering, Shutdown Mode..)
Proverbs 21:19 says, “It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.” God just said it’s better to burn in the sun, dehydrate and die than it is to live with a sour woman. WOMEN!!! STOP NAGGING THE FOOL OUT OF YOUR HUSBAND! Proverbs 27:15 says, “A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike” Your constant bad attitude is the same as water boarding. STOP IT! Let your man lead your home. DON’T NAG HIM! Encouragement in the mouth of a woman is incredibly powerful in the heart of a man.
Men, you have to stop going in to shut down mode every time there’s a conflict! Not dealing with the fox is probably the worst thing you can do.
These are the foxes that I feel creep in the vineyards constantly. These aren’t all of them… and honestly… every couple has them and may have different foxes. Listen: it is healthy for you to ask … “what are the foxes in our lives?” Deal with the foxes and kill them.
God wants your marriage and relationships to flourish. We can’t allow these stupid foxes to rip up one more marriage! What does the fox say? Die. Deal with the foxes and fight for your marriage and tell that fox to die.